Secrets To A Happy Marriage Til Death Do You Part

Walking down the aisle in that beautiful long white gown, hair perfectly styled, family and friends surrounding you, and a smile that could/should last a lifetime. Most girls dream of this day; the day they find their prince, get married, have a family, and live happily ever after. 

Unfortunately, marriage does not always last until ever after, in fact, some marriages only last a few years, even though the couple promised to stay together til death do them part. Marriage is not all flowers and fairy tales. Marriage is a lot of hard word from both sides of the relationship. Most people don't think of all of the work that goes into a marriage as they are walking down the aisle. This is the reason why a lot of marriages fail; the two people involved are not ready to commit to putting so much work and effort into their marriage so that it can last forever.

For those of you who want your marriage to last forever and are willing to put the effort into it, here are a few tips for you to remember. There is never any guarantee that a marriage will last forever, hower, if both parties are committed, it is possible. 

• Argue maturely. There will always be disagreements. No one couple can agree on every single thing forever. Arguments are ok, as long as you can argue like an adult. This means you do not yell or say hurtful things to your spouse that will only haunt you later on. If the argument gets too heated, both of you should just walk away, take some time to catch your breath and come back to discuss it at a later time. Calmly listen to your spouse's side and try to see things from their perspective, not just yours. Sometimes, you just have to agree to disagree and leave it alone if you can't see eye to eye. 
• Always remind yourself how much you love your spouse and the reasons that you are with him. Remind your spouse how much you love them. Leaving them a romantic card, or sending them a loving text message can be just the thing to put a smile on your spouse's face.
• Do your own thing. You don't have to be with your spouse every day, all day. It is ok to have your own individual life with your own set of friends. Go out and enjoy some time away with your friends once in awhile. As long as there is trust in the relationship, there is nothing to worry about and everyone needs their own individual time away, plus, when you are away you may realize how much you miss your spouse!
• Date your spouse. Pick a night every so often, maybe once a month, that is a "date night" for you and your spouse. Do something special just the two of you with no children tagging along. This will help to keep the spark alive and help remind one another what they love about the other so much.
• Sex. Everyone says married sex is better than premarital sex. What if both partners do not have the same sex drive? This is one thing that can cause a lot of problems in a marriage. Don't be afraid to talk about problems in the bedroom and learn to sometimes go outside of your comfort zone to keep your partner satisfied. Spice up the bedroom fun, learn what one another likes, try new positions. In the end, both of you should end up satisfied and content.
• Communicate. Communication is key in a marriage. Talk to one another! Tell him about your day and listen when your spouse tells you about his. If you are upset about something your husband did, tell him, don't just bottle it all up, this will only cause more frustration which will turn into more arguments. Learn to talk things out, both good and bad. Don't bury things inside because one day you may explode and ruin your marriage.
• Appreciate one another. No one likes to feel unappreciated. In our busy lives, we may forget how much our spouse does, as well. Don't forget to thank your spouse for working so hard, cleaning the house, taking care of the kids, or whatever else they may have done. A simple thank you can make a big difference.
• Affection. Show some affection to one another. Hold hands when you are out in public. Grab your husband in the kitchen and give him a hug. Most people love affection but we sometimes forget to show it when our lives get so hectic.